Auntyness

Even though I am 35 and kiddies call me aunty,I am not aunty like in my thinking.At least that's what I feel though others may differ on that.
I have always serious,studious kind,usually did what I was told by parents and really didn't have a life while growing up.
So,now when some one calls me Aunty I don't feel like one.
In India, everyone is an auty and uncle.And usually people just see the body,grey hair or not to call some one aunty.
However there are some specifics and behaviour patterns which means one is an aunty,no matte the age.

1. You start mothering everyone 's children and not just your actual nieces and nephews.
2. You start giving advice,in fact you itch and ache to give advice.
3. You have an strong opinion on everything and no amount of facts make you change your thoughts.
4. You automatically know how children should be raised without raising any .This is different than having mere opinions on how children are brought up these days.
5. You discuss food recipes and eating healthy. Young people are not into health though they might starve to become thin.
6. You skin is drying and hair thinning,...first sign of advancing age.
7. Followed by aches and pains in joints,mood sswings.

OMG ........,Wtf?

Have you  ever seen blotches ,mash of colour ,dull rough cloth tiny bobbers under arm area of your favourite cotton Kurtas or even shirt? At first,I thought they were sweat stains,....but then again I don't even sweat so much.
I read up on Google  and it turns out your favourite anti perspirant is damaging your clothing.It doesn't wash out with detergents,the textile around the underarm area blotches,get discoloured.
I have spoiled many Kurtas....and I didn't even realise.
It seems if you want to continue using deodorant and antiperspirants then this cannot be prevented.The only option it seems is to apply aerosols and if applying roll one,...one needs to wait till it dries completely.
Gosh,.....an important thing like deodorant is messing up my clothes.
Aerosols too may not completely prevent this damage.

Update: It seems roll one which are  just deodorants and Not antiperspirants as well do not spoil the fabric.So ,I have been using only Fa does  and not antiperspirants which seems to not cause this problem.

Do you waste food?

Do you consider  hip to not complete food on your plate?Do you throw away vegetables and fruits from your fridge without pangs?Do you pile your plates in weddings and then throw away half eaten cake or kulfi,or Gulab jamun?

Did your parents forget to teach you not to waste food and water?
Or have you forgotten your parents  teachings to appear cool in your posh and hip crowd of friends??
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I belong to Dawoodi bohra community which loves food,feeding people and then getting together to eat.
But one thing which other people from other religion and communities do not know is ;We consider wasting food criminal.We teach children to eat with their hands and finish the food in their plates.We have a custom of sitting in a thal and volunteers serve food to us....we are obliged to only take that much in the thal that its 8 members can finish.
Nowadays many people in their ego sometimes do not finish the last morsel in the that but thankfully others implore,suggest and ask each other to finish so that not a single grain on the thal ,dal or curry goes waste
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Personally I store vegetables in containers,buy only for week and don't buy if I know I won't be cooking.I process vegetables when I buy I.e pick palak,methi leaves ,dry them on the newspaper and then put it in dry plastic containers. My curry leaves stays green in plastic containers for 2 weeks.
I use vegetables depending on requirement and how soon they can go bad.
I make one pot meals and pulaos...I.e make only that is required. I store leftovers properly and finish them immediately the next day.
I don't let leftovers sit more than 3 days in the fridge.
I store extra rice or chapaties in air tight containers so they remain fresh.

In my house,everyone eats leftovers not just women.

Chemicals and lifestyle.

My aunt uses only shampoo,soap,toothpaste,hair oil,and laundry detergent.She eats regular traditional food,home cooked. - I don't think she knows MacDonald's,KFC etc.She doesn't like burgers,noodles or maggi .

In short ,she is an aberration.
 She used a lipstick probably 2 decades ago,no face creams or sunscreen,no nail polishes etc.She is 'natural' all with super dry skin .She has never dyed her hair and neither does she apply henna.
She thinks All chemicals are bad....not just SLS,phthalates,parabens,formaldehyde etc.She used wash hair with soap for last 55 years ,its only from last 3 years she is using shampoo.
Her exposure to chemicals is 10 percent of an average well maintained city woman.
Once when I was talking about formaldehyde,pesticide in food and water which enter our bloodstreams via food and water,....and that a little moisturiser and body lotion, a little lipstick will probably be a speck on her.....given all the chemicals we consume  by food and water.
She said: I can't stop eating food or drinking water so I am probably doing the right thing by limiting exposure to chemicals.( by not using creams,conditioners,makeup etc)

Going natural means dry,wrinkly skin,grey hair,combed into a bun or pony tail always...because 'natural' in the bottle is not completely natural  and I doubt it'll ever be minus hefty price tags
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I don't really use nail polishes regularly,neither am I crazy about it.So,once I finish my current polishes I'll buy only couple of colours for occasional use..probably pthhalates etc free.
We can just limit the exposure to chemicals ,choose to go grey,dry  because food and water is mostly out of our control.Is it viable?..….its a choice.

all in one products

Earlier 2in 1 shampoo and conditioner were very common and popular especially people who came from foreign lands.Then suddenly India became a favoured market and we were taught face,body and hair requires different products.Now a person has a face wash,a body wash and a shampoo and conditioner...and in some households its for 1 person.
For men,shampoo and body wash in one is still available but there is not a single all in one product for women.
I am now tired with multiple bottles in bathroom and shelves.I have decided to stop using  bar soaps and face wash tube will be only in my handbag for travel.Body washes are now available in big bottles...so I search now for face and body wash in one and will spend on formulations which work as both.
I really am waiting for shampoo,body wash in one since conditioners are best applied after shampooing.
By the way ,I am already using body wash as face wash and am not worse for it.
Just think,an all in one product will reduce expenditure and travel issues-one bottle will serve as body wash,shampoo,face wash and hand wash.